Funeral Planning

The time after a loved one dies is like riding an emotional roller-coaster. One minute you may find yourself unable to stop the tears from flowing, while at other times you may feel crass because you cannot cry at all. Planning a funeral for your loved one should be seen as a very special time. The celebration of the Christian funeral brings hope and consolation to the living. It reminds us all of God's mercy and it serves as a reminder to us to always turn to God in times of crises.

The first step in planning is to contact a funeral home of your choice. The funeral home will contact our pastor and our office. Your family will meet with the pastor and other members of the funeral planning team who will guide you through the selection of readings from scripture and sacred music. Below are selections of those readings and sacred music for your review. Please keep in mind that individual tributes should be reserved for the wake service prior to the funeral Mass or for a reception following. Eulogies at Mass are not permitted. Please contact our office if you have any questions at 608-846-5726. 

Funeral Selection of Readings

St. Olaf Funeral Selection Music

St. Joseph Funeral Selection of Music

The Rite is meant to be three ritual moments:

• Vigil for the Deceased (Wake)
• Funeral Mass
• Burial/Committal

The Church earnestly recommends that the pious custom of burial be retained. However, it does not forbid cremation, unless this is chosen for reasons which are contrary to Christian teaching. - Can. 1176.3
(The Church prefers burial which expresses more clearly the faith in the resurrection and the dignity of
the body.)

The cremated remains of the body MUST BE BURIED:

• In a cemetery
• Entombed in a columbarium (vault or recesses for cremated remains), or
• BURIED at sea (not scattered at sea)

The Church calls for the cremated remains to be buried without undue delay. It recognizes that there may be instances when burial must be delayed due to transport of the remains to another, perhaps, distant location. Placement of the cremated remains within the family member's home is strictly forbidden.

When cremation is chosen, one of the following options must be followed:
 

• (Most recommended) The body is present for the funeral rites (Vigil and Mass) and cremated after for burial or interment. "What about the casket?"...Caskets are usually rented.

 

• The body is cremated and the cremated remains are present for the funeral rites (Vigil and Mass.) Cremated remains MUST be treated with the same respect given to the human body in a casket. During the Mass, the cremated remains are placed in front of the paschal candle, typically on a table and often with a picture of the deceased next to the vessel. The cremated remains are often sprinkled with Holy Water and incensed during the Mass the same way the casket would be.

 

• (Least preferred) The body is cremated and buried (or interred) prior to the Mass. The Mass would be called a Memorial Mass, not a funeral Mass, because the body is not present.

Catholic cemeteries are prayerful places of reverence. Please click here for cemetery information.